Good morning! A couple of weeks ago I read a post on Elements of Style, the gist of which was that Erin was having a bit of a rough patch juggling motherhood, work, and other commitments including her book, blog and a few more things. I noticed that there were lot of comments and so being the nosy person that I am I read through them to see what people were saying because obviously this post had touched a nerve. There were positive and negative comments and everything in between.
What I found interesting is that when someone left a comment that was perceived as negative or was in fact negative, the comments following it were often nasty, snarky comments about the person that wrote the negative comment.
Erin even posted a comment defending herself and her post and then her husband wrote a response to the comments sticking up for his wife.
I actually couldn’t stop thinking about it for a few days and I wondered if you read a blog or another form of social media are you “allowed” to write an honest comment or opinion? Or do you have to say something nice or say nothing at all if you cannot think of something nice to say? I’m not talking about mean-spirited, bitchy comments, I talking about offering your opinion on a post whether or not it is the opposite of that person who wrote the post.
The world of social media is a interesting place because it is open to everyone, the “haves and the have nots” the educated and uneducated, the well traveled and people whom have never left their town, the beautiful people and the not so, people who live exotic and exciting lives and people who just survive, I could go on and on but you know what I am talking about. The world through social media is incredibly small and yet at the same time magnifies the differences between people in so many ways.
The fact is that someone is always going to have more than you and someone is going to have less than you, you are going to have more than someone and less than someone. But it doesn’t make you a better or worse person. Sometimes though people who have more are perceived as braggarts(sometimes they are) and those who have less get irritated by the people who have more and brag about it.
I will say that anytime your hit publish you are putting yourself out there to be scrutinized by whomever reads your stuff. That’s the way it is and so I wonder, what do people put such personal stuff out there? Are they really asking for an opinion? Are they gluttons for punishment?
I personally do not leave a comment unless I have something nice to say. I have been on the receiving end of a few nasty comments and I do not like it. What’s funny is they were often because someone tried to bake something that I posted about and it didn’t work. Do I deserve to be called names because you made the cake and poured all the batter into a 6 inch pan instead of a 9 inch and it leaked all over your oven?
That said, I absolutely believe that everyone is entitled to their opinion and I think it is sad that we are becoming a society where if you do not agree with someones opinion you are often criticized and bullied and that is not right either.
So please share, what are your thoughts about comments in social media? Do you feel as if you can speak your mind or do you think you always have to say something nice?
I hope that you have a great day!