Good morning. I recently read a post from a blog that I have followed for years and she mentioned that she unfollowed, unliked, and deleted blogs, Twitter,Instagram and Facebook accounts that she could not relate to their life or their lifestyle. She said that she was starting to feel badly when she saw outfits, projects, trips, and a lifestyle that did not resemble her own.
I have had this same discussion with family, friends, and other bloggers who have written about similar topics. Honestly, I don’t feel badly, get sad or jealous about what I see on social media. I have a great life and have been very blessed to travel the world, get an education, live in a nice house, have a wonderful family, etc.
I also know that what we see on Instagram and many other social media sights is a little like “smoke and mirrors. It is typically the best they/me have to offer, the most beautiful and cleanest room in the house(which is why you frequently see it on their feed from every angle), a sponsored outfit, room, patio, a perfect cake, etc. A lot of these successful people work hard to get sponsored work and more power to them but I am pretty sure they would not be decorating a room in their house each season without the heavily discounted or free products, paint, wallpaper, furniture etc. that sponsors offer them.
Personally, while I am on social media I like to spend it reading, looking, following, making or doing things that I can relate to, learn from or admire and appreciate.
For instance, I do not follow any science fiction authors because I do not read those sort of books but I do follow bakers and cake decorators that make works of art in their kitchen that I will never be able to create. I also follow architects, like Steve Gianetti and his wife Brooke, interior designers, like Robert Couturier, gardeners, like Joseph Valentine of Juniper Hill and photographers, like Jamie Beck because I appreciate the beautiful things that they are creating.
Lately, I have found myself deleting blogs and instagram accounts of people that post outfits daily that just do not fit into my lifestyle. I cannot relate to a blogger/instagramer that constantly posts an outfit a day that costs $285 for the shirt, $260 for the jeans, $650 for the espadrilles and another $1500 for the handbag, and that is just the clothing, not including the $275 for the earrings. More often than not these are simple “jeans and t-shirt” posts for a walk to get coffee or lunch with a friend. Really?
Don’t get me wrong, I love fashion but just not stuff like that. Especially when I know that many of these people either get the pieces free, receive a huge discount, or buy the pieces, wear them and return them(yes its true). I personally love to follow people that have a sense of fashion that is unique to them, like Elizabeth of The Vintage Contessa, Iris Apfel, Ines de la Fressange, Advanced Style and people like that.
For interiors and travel, I follow House Beautiful, Veranda, Architectural Digest, House & Gardens UK, The English Home, Marie Claire Maison and many more magazines from some of my favorite places to visit, France, the UK, Scotland, to name just a few.
I love to see posts of what people are reading, making, baking, or where they are traveling. If they find a great restaurant that serves tacos, margaritas, the best hot chocolate, cake or bread than I want to hear about it so I can put it on my list of places to try when I am in that area.
I enjoy people that are “real” and post about their lives, their faith, the ups and downs, their animals, adventures, quotes, food and finds.
So tell me, what are your thoughts on social media? Do you love it or hate it? Do you make comparisons between yourself and others? Does it make you feel inferior? Who do you follow and why? What do you like or dislike?
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Have a great day.