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Wednesday Wellness: How to Survive the Holidays

November 17, 2021 By Elizabeth 20 Comments

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Good morning friends, the holidays, otherwise known as the most stressful 5 weeks of the year, are almost upon us. I love the holidays, and I love to spend them with my family.  There are other people who do not have a relationship with their family, or they do not have a family or they simply find the holidays very difficult.

threes miniature snowmen in the snow with a tree in the background,

I am from a family of four kids and my mother is from a family of 10 kids, add in spouses, kids, grandkids,  and that is a lot of people, personalities, beliefs, views, experiences, life changes and more. At the best of times it is a lot to take in and then you throw in the stress and expectations of the holidays and sometimes it feels like a powder keg waiting to blow.

My husbands family by contrast is very small, he has one sister, no aunts and uncles as his mom is an old child and his father( and his siblings) are all gone. I would say the average gathering if all of the kids and grandkids are there is about 15 people. There is still stress and drama as there is with any family.

I know that social media makes the holidays seem like a Hallmark movie but real life and real holidays are sometimes anything but. Without fail every year one member of my family has a meltdown, we always hope and pray that it isn’t going to happen but it always does. Frankly, I feel sorry for this person because they have so many expectations about “the perfect holiday” and they always feel let down, which inevitably results in a breakdown that always make my husband and I question why we went to begin with.

 

There are also the probing questions about your life choices, your job, your weight and over the last few years politics. This can put a real damper on the festivities if you don’t plan ahead on how to not only survive the holidays but to enjoy them as well.

Here are 5 ways to survive the holidays

Be Realistic

Be realistic about the holidays and your expectations. Many of us have “the perfect” holiday in our minds; a beautiful white Christmas with soft falling snow, a fire in the fireplace, the family sitting around in their matching pjs sipping hot chocolate and egg nog opening presents in front of a beautiful tree. The reality is a bit different, the weather is unseasonably warm and everyone is wearing shorts, the dogs knocked over the tree and broke a few of your favorite ornaments, the kids are crying because they do not want to wear pj’s much less matching ones and someone drank all the milk at breakfast and didn’t get any more so there is no hot chocolate. Let it go, life isn’t perfect and neither are the holidays, no-one has the perfect family or holiday even though social media would like us to believe they did.

Ask for Help

I am the kind of person that likes to “do all” and sometimes I try to do way to many things to make the holiday “perfect” for my family and friends. I actually get mad at myself and them because I’ve taken on too much. Delegate tasks, divide up what needs to get done and allow yourself to enjoy the holidays instead if watching them go by in a blur. It’s ok to ask someone else to wrap gifts, to bake a few dozen cookies, or to plan the activities.

Let Go of Traditions

If you always have a real tree but the kids are grown and it is too hard for you to get out and get one on your own or you simply want to have the ease of a faux tree or if you don’t want to have a tree at all then don’t. If your family has turkey for the holidays but no one likes it, don’t make it simply because it is tradition. If you normally go to midnight mass but it makes everyone cranky the next morning skip it and go the the early mass at five. If it is not making you happy, stop! Do not continue to do something just because you have always done it, life is too short for that.

 

Everything in Moderation

If you are staying with family for a week you do not need to spend 24 hours a day with them, get out and see an old friend, take a walk, see a movie, or just have some alone time. Holiday food is rich and delicious but don’t overdue it, too much of a good thing is too much and can make you feel ill. By all means enjoy all of your favorite holiday foods and drinks but maybe not all on the same day or a the same time.

Stay Home

Sometimes we have to listen to our bodies and our feelings and to skip a holiday or family get together. Growing up, getting married, having kids, growing old and all of the “seasons” in between can mean that the circumstances of our lives have changed and that not everyone can do every holiday together. I have friends that once they had children never traveled away from home at Christmas. They wanted their kids to wake up in their own beds and to run down the stairs on Christmas morning and to be able to play all day with the gifts Santa brought; family and friends were welcome to come to their house but they were not coming to yours. If you feel like taking a break from traveling or family holidays, stay home and take the year off, it’s ok.

These are just a few things that you can do to make the holidays less stressful on yourself and your family. Remember that life isn’t perfect and your holidays doesn’t have to be either to be enjoyable. Don’t be so hard on yourself or your family, practice gratitude and find the joy in the day.

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Have a great day my friends, you have some suggestions to make the holidays less stressful please share.



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  1. Brenda Pruitt says

    November 17, 2021 at 9:53 am

    I love that your friends stay home at Christmas with their children. It’s a great way of making traditions. I’ll be packing for the move during the holidays.
    Brenda

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  2. Mary says

    November 17, 2021 at 11:19 am

    Such a fabulous post Elizabeth – one I needed to read this morning as I, like you, usually take on too much to prepare for Christmas especially. This year will be very different here – I cannot, will not, be the one to decorate over the top, sooth everyone’s problems, cook, bake and feed them all, shop till I drop, spend a small fortune on gifts etc. etc. We are traveling for Thanksgiving and when I return, hopefully in less physical pain, I will not let my emotions take over and try to be the perfect hostess – this year we either are invited somewhere or we’ll be perfectly happy to be here at home alone, recalling those those so busy and tiring (often fun) Christmasses of our younger days!
    Happy week dear.

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  3. Susan Kelley says

    November 17, 2021 at 11:27 am

    You do have a sly sense of humor. Had a good laugh at the kid who drank all the milk at breakfast,so none for hot chocolate! We have had so many Xmas bombs,all one can do is laugh! Merry Christmas!

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  4. William Kendall says

    November 17, 2021 at 12:07 pm

    For me Christmas wrecks havoc with my depression, each and every year. Inevitably it’s Christmas music in a store that sets it off, and it stays in place until after Christmas when it’s all done and it just vanishes. A lot of that goes back to past family dynamics and difficult people I’ve cut out of my life.

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    • Elizabeth says

      November 17, 2021 at 9:32 pm

      William I am so sorry that Christmas is so hard, and as you mentioned there is no escape from the relentless Christmas music for at least 2 months. I am happy to hear that you have cut out difficult people, that is a very hard thing to do but completely necessary for our own health. Take care of yourself!

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  5. Char says

    November 17, 2021 at 2:21 pm

    Your post validates many of us struggling now, when in years past we created a perfect scene. I love that you are so real. I’m in middle of divorcing in my 70s, and face losing most everything tangible.. I’m thrilled to be moving on from his mental abuse, yet feel left out by society and even friends who think my church-going professional is the pillar of goodness. I still put in some effort at holiday time, even if for myself, and read lots of motivational material. So difficult as I prepare my beautiful home for sale. Mental peace is more important.

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    • Lorna says

      November 17, 2021 at 2:45 pm

      Very good advice. Sometimes we try to do it all and end up feeling like a wreck.

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    • Elizabeth says

      November 17, 2021 at 9:39 pm

      Char, I cannot imagine how hard this is for you, the blessing is that you are out of an abusive situation. Seek out the friends and family that you have that are good for you, the ones that have chosen your husband are “not your people.” I hope that you have an attorney that is looking out for your interest, after all of these years you should be entitled to something. Do not let your husband continue to hurt you by making you “start over.” I hope that you have a wonderful holiday, make it special for yourself; get a small tree, bake some cookies for yourself, enjoy this special season, it is ” the most wonderful time of the year” and it is what we make it. Where will you be moving to? Please reach out if you need anything!

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  6. Stacey says

    November 17, 2021 at 2:50 pm

    This will be my first year away from my family on Christmas morning. We’re spending this time with my husband’s family this year but it will make the day less stressful for us. It’s hard but worth it. <3

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    • Elizabeth says

      November 17, 2021 at 9:30 pm

      Stacey, I had never spent a Christmas away from my family until I was 32! It was a change to spend it with my husbands family but it was nice in a different way. Less stress is always a good thing. Enjoy!

      Reply
  7. Paula@SweetPea says

    November 18, 2021 at 9:26 am

    Great tips!

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    • Elizabeth says

      November 18, 2021 at 9:37 am

      Thank you Paula!

      Reply
  8. Danielle says

    November 18, 2021 at 9:51 am

    These are great tips. The holidays can be hard for so many.

    Reply
    • Elizabeth says

      November 18, 2021 at 10:00 pm

      It is a hard time for many and they often feel forgotten in their suffering.

      Reply
  9. Linda Johnston says

    November 18, 2021 at 10:03 am

    Always love your posts with sensible practical advice!!

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    • Elizabeth says

      November 18, 2021 at 9:59 pm

      Thank you Linds, I really appreciate that.

      Reply
  10. Libbie Burling says

    November 18, 2021 at 6:05 pm

    Self-care is so important during the holidays. Thank you for the reminders. xx

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    • Elizabeth says

      November 18, 2021 at 9:57 pm

      It is indeed Libby! Thank you !

      Reply
  11. Mary says

    November 19, 2021 at 8:48 am

    Love these hints for the holidays. It’s so true that we all have the perfect scene in our head but need to be more realistic. Thanks for this!

    Reply
  12. Marieza says

    November 21, 2021 at 11:16 pm

    This is a lovely post! Thank you for sharing!

    Reply

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